Is it okay to have sex before marriage?
Quick Answer: While the world around us seems to separate sex from the marriage commitment, God’s design is for them to be integrated as one. Sex should involve a commitment to marriage. The two are not to be seen separately (Genesis 2:24; Mark 10:8-10).
Diving Deeper: Modern society perpetuates many lies about marriage. Chief among these lies is the idea that sex can exist independent from marriage. However, this is not God’s design. Genesis 2:24 and Mark 10:8-10 both associate sexual union with becoming one with your spouse. When this happens, a marriage commitment is supposed to have occurred.
When people disassociate sex with marriage, they lose sight of the purpose of sex. Sex is about becoming one with another person. It’s about being married. If sex is dissociated with marriage, then neither marriage nor the true purpose of sex have been realized.
Essentially, the concept of “sex before marriage” is an oxymoron. The only reason such a concept exists is because our culture has distorted God’s original vision for sex.
If you’re having sex before marriage, you need to know that you as a believer are a totally forgiven person (Hebrews 10:14). God looks at you as if you’ve never sinned a day in your life. That’s the effect of the Gospel! However, you can be both forgiven and miserable, and God doesn’t want that for you. That’s why, going forward, His Spirit will counsel you away from the confusion and misery of premarital sex.
God want you to know true fulfillment in Him!
Let’s Make It a Conversation!
1. Why does God counsel us away from sex without marriage?
2. React to this statement: You can be both forgiven and miserable.
3. React to this statement: Sex before marriage is an oxymoron.